So this is going to be a bit of a ranty post from me because, well, I’m pissed off and upset.
Today as work I was helping a lady pick some fabric and thread that she needed for her current project. I reached around to pick a thread and she patted my tummy in a when are you due kinda way. My response to this was “no no, just fat, my baby is 14 months old”. The lady just looked at me. Didn’t apologise. Didn’t even bat an eye lid. I however became very hot and flustered and wanted to cry. Before this happened I was feeling pretty good about myself. I have gone back to weight watchers and lost 3.5lb in my first week back and I am feeling less bloated and just better in myself for eating better. Today’s encounter has left me feeling shitty. It has also made me realise I am an emotional eater because all I have wanted to do since is eat cake. I haven’t. It took all of my willpower not to raid the M&S cake aisle on my lunch break.
So I am going to say it. It is NOT ok to pat someone’s tummy thinking they are pregnant even if they are 9months pregnant and about to pop. It is NOT ok to pass comment on someone’s weight. You have absolutely no idea what struggles that person is having and the effect that comment could have on them or their health. That person may have an eating disorder or an illness or something underlying that you have no idea about and no reason to know about.
I have struggled with my weight for years and I am desperately trying to lose weight for my health more than anything else and today’s encounter could have knocked me majorly back.
So unless someone tells you they are pregnant and gives your permission to pat their bump it is not ok to pat a random strangers tummy and ask them when they are due.